Couples Mini-Retreat: We NEED to Talk... But Not Like That.

$149.00

A Virtual Mini-Retreat for Real-Life Couples

Sunday, October 18 | 6:00–9:00 PM ET | Live Online

You love each other.

And yet, somehow, you are having that fight again.

Maybe it's about the dishes. Or the kids. Or money. Or whose turn it was to make the appointment. Maybe one of you is saying, “That's not what I meant!” while the other is thinking, “How do you STILL not understand why I'm upset?”

Or maybe you aren't fighting much at all. You're just busy. Tired. Managing approximately 4,000 things. And somewhere between work, laundry, kids, schedules, phones, and figuring out what everyone is eating for dinner, your relationship has gotten a little less attention than you'd like.

We Need to Talk (But Not Like That) is a three-hour virtual mini-retreat for couples who want to understand each other better, communicate differently, and feel a little more like us again.

This isn't couples therapy. And it's definitely not three hours of me lecturing you about using “I statements.”

Instead, we'll use attachment science, relationship research, humor, and guided exercises to help you understand what actually happens between the two of you when things go sideways.

You'll learn how to recognize the cycle you get caught in, understand what's happening underneath your reactions, communicate the things that are harder to say, and find your way back to each other after you've gotten disconnected.

Most of the important conversations happen privately between you and your partner. You won't be asked to share intimate details about your relationship with a group of strangers.

Think of it less like attending a seminar and more like having an intentional date night—with someone else doing the planning.

Grab your favorite takeout. Pour something good. Find somewhere comfortable. Shut the door. And spend three hours paying attention to something that's remarkably easy to put at the bottom of the list:

the two of you.

You'll leave with:

  • A clearer understanding of your relationship cycle and why the same arguments keep happening

  • Tools for slowing things down when a conversation starts going sideways

  • A better understanding of what's underneath your partner's reactions—and your own

  • Guided conversations designed to help you feel heard, understood, and connected

  • Practical ways to repair after conflict instead of carrying it around for three days

  • Your own “When We Get Stuck” plan to use at home

  • A workbook you can keep using after the retreat

Who is this for?

You do not need to be struggling to come.

This retreat is designed for couples who love each other and want to be intentional about their relationship—whether you're feeling wonderfully connected, a little roommate-ish lately, or somewhere in between.

It can be especially helpful if you find yourselves having the same arguments, communicating past each other, feeling disconnected during stressful seasons, or simply thinking:

“We're good. I just want us to stay good.”

Your host

Dr. Alyssa Brown, PhD, HSPP
Licensed Psychologist & Couples Therapist

My work with couples is grounded in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy, but I promise there will not be a quiz.

My goal is to take what we know about how relationships actually work and make it understandable, practical, and usable in your real life—including the parts of real life involving children yelling from another room while you're trying to have a meaningful conversation.

The details

Sunday, October 18, 2026
6:00–9:00 PM Eastern
Live on Zoom
$149 per couple — one registration covers both partners

Come comfortable. Bring snacks. Bring your partner.

I'll bring the relationship science.

A Virtual Mini-Retreat for Real-Life Couples

Sunday, October 18 | 6:00–9:00 PM ET | Live Online

You love each other.

And yet, somehow, you are having that fight again.

Maybe it's about the dishes. Or the kids. Or money. Or whose turn it was to make the appointment. Maybe one of you is saying, “That's not what I meant!” while the other is thinking, “How do you STILL not understand why I'm upset?”

Or maybe you aren't fighting much at all. You're just busy. Tired. Managing approximately 4,000 things. And somewhere between work, laundry, kids, schedules, phones, and figuring out what everyone is eating for dinner, your relationship has gotten a little less attention than you'd like.

We Need to Talk (But Not Like That) is a three-hour virtual mini-retreat for couples who want to understand each other better, communicate differently, and feel a little more like us again.

This isn't couples therapy. And it's definitely not three hours of me lecturing you about using “I statements.”

Instead, we'll use attachment science, relationship research, humor, and guided exercises to help you understand what actually happens between the two of you when things go sideways.

You'll learn how to recognize the cycle you get caught in, understand what's happening underneath your reactions, communicate the things that are harder to say, and find your way back to each other after you've gotten disconnected.

Most of the important conversations happen privately between you and your partner. You won't be asked to share intimate details about your relationship with a group of strangers.

Think of it less like attending a seminar and more like having an intentional date night—with someone else doing the planning.

Grab your favorite takeout. Pour something good. Find somewhere comfortable. Shut the door. And spend three hours paying attention to something that's remarkably easy to put at the bottom of the list:

the two of you.

You'll leave with:

  • A clearer understanding of your relationship cycle and why the same arguments keep happening

  • Tools for slowing things down when a conversation starts going sideways

  • A better understanding of what's underneath your partner's reactions—and your own

  • Guided conversations designed to help you feel heard, understood, and connected

  • Practical ways to repair after conflict instead of carrying it around for three days

  • Your own “When We Get Stuck” plan to use at home

  • A workbook you can keep using after the retreat

Who is this for?

You do not need to be struggling to come.

This retreat is designed for couples who love each other and want to be intentional about their relationship—whether you're feeling wonderfully connected, a little roommate-ish lately, or somewhere in between.

It can be especially helpful if you find yourselves having the same arguments, communicating past each other, feeling disconnected during stressful seasons, or simply thinking:

“We're good. I just want us to stay good.”

Your host

Dr. Alyssa Brown, PhD, HSPP
Licensed Psychologist & Couples Therapist

My work with couples is grounded in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy, but I promise there will not be a quiz.

My goal is to take what we know about how relationships actually work and make it understandable, practical, and usable in your real life—including the parts of real life involving children yelling from another room while you're trying to have a meaningful conversation.

The details

Sunday, October 18, 2026
6:00–9:00 PM Eastern
Live on Zoom
$149 per couple — one registration covers both partners

Come comfortable. Bring snacks. Bring your partner.

I'll bring the relationship science.

Couples Mini-Retreat: Get It Together - Before We Get Together
$149.00

Get It Together Before We Get Together

A 3-Hour Virtual Holiday Mini-Retreat for Real-Life Couples

The holidays are coming.

Which means food. Traditions. Travel. Gifts. Family. Children who are somehow both overstimulated and bored.

And approximately 700 tiny decisions that somebody has to make.

The holidays can be wonderful. They can also put an impressive amount of pressure on a relationship.

Whose family are we seeing? How long are we staying? How much are we spending? Are we exchanging gifts with your siblings? Why did you tell your mother we'd be there at noon without asking me? Who remembered the teacher gifts? And how did I somehow become the person responsible for remembering every single thing?

Get It Together Before We Get Together is a three-hour virtual mini-retreat designed to help couples get on the same page before the holiday chaos begins.

Because underneath a lot of holiday stress aren't actually problems with Christmas.

There are expectations nobody said out loud. Mental loads that don't feel particularly shared. Family dynamics we've been carrying for decades. Different ideas about money, traditions, gifts and what makes the holidays “special.” And two people who can very quickly forget they're supposed to be on the same team.

So before everybody gets together, we're going to get you two together.

During our three hours, we'll tackle:

🎄 “But We've Always Done It This Way.”
Traditions, expectations and figuring out what your family actually wants the holidays to look like.

🧠 “How Did I Become the Holiday Project Manager?”
Mental load, invisible labor and everything involved in making the magic happen.

🏠 “Okay, But Your Family…”
In-laws, extended-family dynamics, competing invitations, boundaries and staying a team when everybody has an opinion.

💳 “Wait. You Spent HOW MUCH?”
Gifts, budgets, generosity and getting on the same page about holiday spending.

💬 “I Thought You Knew.”
Unspoken expectations, disappointment, resentment and asking for what you actually need.

❤️ “Oh Yeah. Us.”
Protecting your connection when December becomes one giant to-do list.

You'll have guided conversations throughout the retreat, but the important stuff stays between you and your partner.

No telling strangers about your mother-in-law.

No forced group processing.

No expectation that you will emerge with matching Christmas pajamas and a color-coded holiday binder.

Instead, you'll leave with your own Holiday Huddle Plan: what matters to you this year, what you're letting go of, your boundaries, your budget, how you're dividing the work, what each of you needs—and how you're going to protect us in the middle of everything else.

The goal isn't a perfect holiday.

It's getting to January and thinking:

“That was a lot. But we did it together.”

Live Online | 3 Hours | $149 per couple